What people are saying...
Hi Laura
I am 52 & find that I think about sex much more now than I have for years. I believe there are a mixture of driving forces, a desire to capture your lost youth, a desire to experience different things before you are too old to enjoy them. A desire for excitement that has been lost. A desire for stimulating conversation that is not about the kids.
It is not a case of too much spare time as I am very busy at work. It’s about a search for experience.
- Alex
Laura, I have read both your web sites and must congratulate you on their content. They are inspiring and beautiful. They bring a peace to my troubled soul.
- Ian
As a man, I feel that it is no problem for me to make a clear distinction between sex, love and intimacy. I often am so attracted to other women that it drives me nearly insane. I really feel like it is biological to some extent - it is me through and through.
- William
Hi and welcome!
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You have just discovered that your partner has cheated on you. It feels as if your whole world has just fallen apart with the foundation being ripped from underneath you. You are not sure where to begin as to how to deal with this. No doubt you feel so very betrayed, angry, furious and now it feels as if the lies are more than you can endure.
Should you split up or begin divorce proceedings? Or is there a way this can be resolved?
Before you consider divorce procedures, there are solutions. Once we understand the human psyche - then we realise that divorce is not necessary. Instead what it boils down to, is our social conditioning needs reviewing.
Is he 'in-love' with her now? Will he now run off with the lady he has had an affair with?
Not necessarily so. You would be surprised at just how many men really do not wish to leave their wives. While some men may promise their mistress they are leaving, they don't REALLY intend on doing this. The men feel a stronger connection emotionally to their wives, which outweighs the physical attraction he may be feeling towards another lady.
Is there hope? Can a relationship be saved through this painful discovery?
Yes absolutely there is still plenty of hope left. Yes your relationship CAN be saved.
Then what is the solution when people find out that their partner has cheated on them?
The key is KNOWLEDGE. We still have so much to learn about human nature. If we understand human nature, we begin to realise that something in our social structure is amiss We have simply been in denial.
What about all of the LIES? I can NEVER trust him again! Our whole relationship feels like a lie now!
He has lied because what we have been taught simply goes against our human nature. Society has demanded complete monogamy but this is not correct. It leaves the person who has cheated no choice BUT to lie.
Did you know that most men prefer to be honest with their partner? Lying is uncomfortable and is always hard work. It's far more refreshing to be honest and makes life easier.
As a woman:
* Why are there so many LIES?
* Learn how to keep your man completely devoted to you for many years.
* Learn the different sexual relationships we as humans can have. WIth this knowledge, you can be reassured that your partnership is not under threat.
* Learn to distinguish the difference between what is real love, and what is lust.
* Hear what the men have to say, and how they express they love their wives but feel tormented by their sexual desires.
For the men:
* You know you love your wife, but why are you driven to see other women?
* You've tried so hard to resist - but why do you feel you can not control yourself?
* Are you torn about your infidelity? * How many other married men are seeing other women?
Laura
